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Anger Management

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By michael lee ⋅ June 7, 2007 ⋅ Post a comment

I just chewed a kid out in front of the entire group. I was completely in the right, and it absolutely merited my angry voice, and it was an appropriate setting for a little public shaming. Still, I feel horrible. I hate having to be the one in charge, who drops the hammer.

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12 comments for “Anger Management”

  1. Good Work. Sometimes it just needs to happen.

  2. Remember my little story about being called out by Rod?

    That’s the kind of thing that helps boys and girls become men and women, if done lovingly and directly. Make sure you buy him (or her) the appropriate version of a beer sometime soon.

  3. Dude, it happens. And you are a super-nice, generous, self-effacing teacher most of the time (at least in the podcasts I’ve listened to), so this in my mind is all going to go well. The reason I think this is because I had a professor who was very, very new my Junior year - he was sweet, quiet, humble, etc. But then somebody cut up one time too many - he turned purple, got the meanest face I’ve ever seen on and ripped that poor bastard a new one right in front of our 75-person choir. He did that every time somebody created chaos in his choirs for the rest of his (ongoing) career. But he was such a good person that his rep. was “He’s a super teacher - so kind - but if you cut up, boy howdy. He’ll go all eggplant and make you wish you were never born.”

    So this is all going to be OK. Because you’re that nice prof who really loves them and they know it.

  4. Morphea, I may have misrepresented to you how nice I am to the students. I’m normally kind of a prick.

  5. Lies. I refuse to believe it.

  6. Hi
    I read your article with interest.
    Anger is a result of not coping. So I believe.
    You are talking about coping. It is my clinical experience that coping styles determine jut how well you cope.
    Some people do this worse than others.
    It is not just the way that they act. It is the way that they think and feel.
    This means they enjoy a poor quality of life.
    It often, if not invariably will mean that they are prone to Anxiety or Depression.
    As a Psychiatrist for 38 years I decided that I wanted to do something to help.
    So I built, what I consider to be, a comprehensive answer. The myRay site is free Online Self-Help.
    As I say, myRay is free so why not take a peek and see if myRay can help you
    With kindest regards
    Dr. Michael Benjamin

  7. Hey Dr. Benjamin! You’re a spammy douche!

    (I just said that in front of everyone, and I don’t feel bad about it.)

  8. Wow, all these intense comments and then the spam, for a sec I was thinking that it might be real…until the ad. Yeah, Mike is pretty much lying. We all know that he cares about us and pushes use to become the best, just like others did with him (though he can’t hide some of his happiness in watching us struggle).

  9. Mike is mean and he finds happiness ONLY in watching people struggle. I’ve been a June for almost 37 years and I never want to help Mike or anyone else. As I say, Mike is mean. MeanieMikeyMeanMean.

  10. In my humble opinion, the pain is a good sign. So long as you stay in touch with how much you hate doing that, you’re on the right track. It’s when you start to enjoy putting down your charges that you might want to think about where you got off the road.

    Hang in there.

  11. Ha! Spammy douche. Heh heh heh.

  12. Yeah, y’know, sometimes it’s just gotta happen. It all depends on the circumstances. It’s not okay when it’s the kid who acted out the one time when you’ve had a bad day. It’s the kid who’s done it OVER AND OVER AND OVER AND OVER and the subtle nudges ain’t workin’. Some people just need to be beaten about the head neck and shoulders every once in a while.

    Some in a more literal sense than figurative. On some occasions. I’m just sayin’.

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