Comments on: Adulthood http://addisonrd.com/WordPress/2005/07/adulthood/ your source for illegal theology downloads Fri, 08 Aug 2008 00:12:29 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6 By: Morphea http://addisonrd.com/WordPress/2005/07/adulthood/#comment-535 Morphea Thu, 28 Jul 2005 19:45:19 +0000 http://addisonrd.com/WordPress/?p=139#comment-535 I feel precisely the same way. There is much frustration in having what you have and doing what you do (job) because of decisions you made as a teenager and a twenty-something (egad). It hurts to watch some dreams die and not have another dream close by to replace it with. And, yes, most people our age either have kids and a house and a couple of cars or are quickly acquiring them, and even though I clearly don't want any of those things, I still fret a little that maybe I'm just not mature enough to aspire to being a parent and a homeowner. That's a distinct possibility. And please understand that I am by no means looking down my nose at these things. Not at all. Just don't want 'em. Yet. . Ramon and I have, fortunately, the same opinion about these sorts of things: we prefer to remain childless for the moment, we have chosen to remain apartment-dwellers for the time being, we're contemplating car-lessness as well, since Seattle's got such a great transit system, etc. And we comfort ourselves, lacking Master's degrees - which does rankle - by aspiring to continue to learn new things and trying things that frighten us a little for the sake of staying elastic and open-minded. Right now I'm learning Spanish and we're both learning guitar. For a while I was a nude model for sculptors. Stuff like that. Since we seek contentment, simplicity and authenticity in our life above all things, it's a little easier to manage thoughts of longing (wish we had an extra $3,000 a year for vacations to the Caribbean, wish we had a Mini Cooper, wish I could afford more tattoos, wish we had enough money to get any old degree we wanted, it WOULD be great to have our own house so we could tile the living room and grow lettuce) by reminding each other that we're having a really, really good time and we like ourselves and each other quite a lot. The thing that bugs me most is that Doing Good has not yet presented itself as a large-ish facet of my life, besides aspiring to bring love and joy to as many as I can (that in itself will take more than my lifetime to achieve on a consistent basis), but I'm working on what Doing Good means to me philosophically and especially in practical terms. . Anyway, I'm not trying to be bratty or complacent, but I wanted to say that I feel the same struggle and list some of the things I think about to comfort myself. . Cerise I feel precisely the same way. There is much frustration in having what you have and doing what you do (job) because of decisions you made as a teenager and a twenty-something (egad). It hurts to watch some dreams die and not have another dream close by to replace it with. And, yes, most people our age either have kids and a house and a couple of cars or are quickly acquiring them, and even though I clearly don’t want any of those things, I still fret a little that maybe I’m just not mature enough to aspire to being a parent and a homeowner. That’s a distinct possibility. And please understand that I am by no means looking down my nose at these things. Not at all. Just don’t want ‘em. Yet.
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Ramon and I have, fortunately, the same opinion about these sorts of things: we prefer to remain childless for the moment, we have chosen to remain apartment-dwellers for the time being, we’re contemplating car-lessness as well, since Seattle’s got such a great transit system, etc. And we comfort ourselves, lacking Master’s degrees - which does rankle - by aspiring to continue to learn new things and trying things that frighten us a little for the sake of staying elastic and open-minded. Right now I’m learning Spanish and we’re both learning guitar. For a while I was a nude model for sculptors. Stuff like that. Since we seek contentment, simplicity and authenticity in our life above all things, it’s a little easier to manage thoughts of longing (wish we had an extra $3,000 a year for vacations to the Caribbean, wish we had a Mini Cooper, wish I could afford more tattoos, wish we had enough money to get any old degree we wanted, it WOULD be great to have our own house so we could tile the living room and grow lettuce) by reminding each other that we’re having a really, really good time and we like ourselves and each other quite a lot. The thing that bugs me most is that Doing Good has not yet presented itself as a large-ish facet of my life, besides aspiring to bring love and joy to as many as I can (that in itself will take more than my lifetime to achieve on a consistent basis), but I’m working on what Doing Good means to me philosophically and especially in practical terms.
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Anyway, I’m not trying to be bratty or complacent, but I wanted to say that I feel the same struggle and list some of the things I think about to comfort myself.
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Cerise

]]> By: jeremy http://addisonrd.com/WordPress/2005/07/adulthood/#comment-534 jeremy Thu, 28 Jul 2005 19:20:40 +0000 http://addisonrd.com/WordPress/?p=139#comment-534 I am petrified of 26...so I think that's the "age"... :0 jeremy I am petrified of 26…so I think that’s the “age”…

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